Effort

Commitment

Adjustments

Compromise

Sacrifice

Transparency

Honesty

Humility

Toppling personal walls we’ve erected,

Asking forgiveness and learning to forgive and not holding grudges

Learning to love what he/she loves

Making him/her the priority

And it is at that time you can begin to classify one another as soul mates because God is able to be involved in your marriage.

no relationship is perfect.

having been in a long, open relationship in which my partner and i saw other people while still living together and considering each other our respective "primary" partners, i realized that, after coming out of that relationship, the whole thing was a search for something that was missing. something that i didn't realize i was missing until i found it.

i think that every relationship is an active, learning process, and that no relationship is ever complete. i believed that the whole "perfect mate" concept in movies and tv was a fantasy and, as such, i settled on a relationship that was less-than-perfect for both of us, in which we made concessions to get pieces of things from different people to fit specific holes or needs we had. it wasn't until i stumbled upon someone with whom i didn't need to make concessions, or censor myself, who loved me and respected me for who and what i was, that i realized what i was looking for.

i tell the story often of how we met, or rather got together, because i think it is a fun and amusing story…we went to college together, and each year, the learning community we were living in held a party before winter break called the Kissmas party. probably i don't need to go into gory details, you can make your own assumptions based on the name. the notable part is that participants were required to wear tags that expressed whether or not they were participating in the unique festivities of the party — green means go, yellow means "ask first," red means "no way." i noticed this girl that i had wanted to get to know better for a long time but who had been in a long-standing relationship. she was wearing a yellow tag, so i asked if i could kiss her. she said yes. we kissed. and i swear that if we were in a movie, there would be stars shooting in the sky and fireworks, worlds shook, towers toppled, because in the instant that our lips touched i knew that this was the thing i had been looking for my whole life.

we've been together ever since, and married for 7 years. i won't say it's been easy, but it's been right.

I never truly believed that we have soul mates out there. Yes God allows people to come into our lives, he has a design and purpose for all. I think at any given time we can be attracted to another person and that is our weakness, the flesh. Before I got married, some of the guys I dated I thought I was going to marry them lol, out of the three I dated, I married the third one. I hear no where in the Bible Soulmate so I can't make the connection. Why would God want to place someone in our lives who would distract us from HIM and his Glory. OUR God is a jealous God and we are to love HIM first. God is my first Love and my everything. Yes I would have to say I love my Lord more than I love my husband, Is that wrong?

Marvin said it well how we don't find our soul mate we become one. I had a discussion with my friend about this topic, and she felt the same way and agreed how we have to work at each relationship. Each trial we endure exposes us as individuals and we should be willing and prepared to deal with it because you chose them. When we choose to marry that person we will have to work at it. The commitment we made to God is that we will honor and Love till death do part which seals the deal.

Question: If something happen to that spouse and the other person decides to marry again does that mean that GOd made multiple soul mates for us?

SO I believe God allows people in to our lives for many reasons. As individuals, God probably sees what we may need in our life and he just may bring that person in to help us or strengthen us. God designed marriage due to the sins of lusting and fornicating. He gives us free will to marry who we want but I know God still has as design in plan. I know back in biblical days that couples were arranged and sometimes even people had to marry in the family to keep the blood line pure. How good is grace now where God gives us that choice to decide who we can love.

The hard work is not giving up, the vows we take is "through think and thin, richer or for poorer" What God has brought together don't let man take apart. If it was that easy for God to deliver us a soul mate he wouldn't have left us his INSTRUCTIONS how to love each other, especially in a marriage.

Lets continue to pray our spouses up so GOd can reveal his true works within us.