The other day I googled the word "sex" and found that there were 794,000,000 hits. Can you imagine that? I bet you can. Needless to say, sex is a very popular and powerful topic. Not only is sex a popular and powerful topic, but it can be the source of problems in marriage as well. Many couples have indicated their love life is in trouble. Some couples say their sexual intimacy is non-existent in their marriage, not even a hug. It is a sad reality, but it is not a hopeless reality. I will draw principles from Genesis 1:28; 2:18; 2:23-25 and 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 to give us perspective on Good Sex. These next few posts will be dedicated to married couples (Singles will definitely be able to learn from these posts as well), helping us think through how to have Good Sex. Because the God we serve invented sex, those of us who follow him should be having the best sex, right? Well, I think so. Well, why did God create sex anyway? 

God created sex for us to proclaim a spiritual truth. Sex is not just about skin to skin, hittin' it, or getting your swerve on. It is a physical expression of a spiritual truth. This truth is spiritual and emotional oneness. Sex is as much a spiritual and emotional mystery as it is a physical act. 

Sex is a very spiritual and emotional act. When God created man and woman, he created them to be spiritual and emotional beings. They were designed to connect with God. They were designed to connect with one another. They were created to be in tune with one another's needs for love, intimacy, closeness and companionship. The spiritual and emotional closeness and oneness are naturally expressed through the physical act of sex. 

When a couple is sexually intimate with one another, God designed it so that they would be actually proclaiming "we are one" on all levels – one spiritually and one emotionally. One on every level. Now, to have sex without this oneness, cheapens and devalues this wonderful gift God has given a husband and wife. 

To have sex without this spiritual and emotional oneness is really a lie. The physical intimacy gives a false impression that we're something that we're not. There have been times when my wife and I have gone through the physical act of sex without the spiritual and emotional connection. I'm not going to lie, the physical act felt good, but it also felt like a lie. It was a lie because we were not one at that moment. I am not proud of that, but it is reality. I would suspect it has been your reality as well. 

Someone might say, "Since I am not one with my partner, then I don't have to have sex with my spouse." This is the wrong conclusion. The question we should ask is "How do we become one spiritually and emotionally, so that when we do come together sexually, we will loudly proclaim the spiritual and emotional oneness that God intended from the beginning. 

God created sex to provide mutual pleasure. Sex was designed for a husband and wife to be mutually fulfilled and pleasured physically. Sex is one of the most beautiful and pleasurable gifts that God created. God gave us the gift of sex for us to enjoy it in the context of marriage. Let me say that last part again, God gave us sex to enjoy in the context of marriage. (My single men and women, wait. God is faithful).

Now when we are faithful in proclaiming the truth of spiritual and emotional oneness (praying together, sacrificing together, laughing together, crying together, encouraging one another to be our best for God, working together to build our lives in his Kingdom), there is heightened sexual pleasure and fulfillment. Listen, when my wife and I are clicking on all cylinders, spiritually and emotionally, the pleasure we experience is, Hal-le-lujah! Hal-le-lujah! Hallelujah! I think you get the point. It is what God intended for it to be. The opposite is true as well. When we are not living in oneness, there is a lack of sexual fulfillment and pleasure. I mean, we go through the motions because of marital obligations (It might feel good. Well, it does feel good), but the sex is not as pleasurable as it should be, the way God intended it to be.  

With the exception of real physical problems, a non-existent sex life or a troubled sex life within marriage, is a symptom of deeper problems of oneness. Sex can be great and extremely pleasurable, but it was never meant to be strong enough to sustain a relationship. When we engage in sexual intimacy, it should remind us of the spiritual and emotional oneness God intended for us to have from the beginning. 

God created sex to produce generational offspring. This is a $75 phrase for having babies. The first command that God ever gave human beings was to be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth. 

Good Sex begins with God's view of sex 

Sex is a beautiful gift from our heavenly Father

Sex is designed to be holy and sacred – designed to be separate from all other perverted forms of sex.

Sex is designed to be enjoyed within the marriage covenant   

Stay tuned. Much more to come.  Join the conversation. What do you think? 

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